Most of our relationships with others are about an investment of good. When we strike up a relationship, for the most part our intention is to do our friend good.
However In the passage of time, it is also common to face rough patches that challenge our relationships. These challenges range from a fall out, to a betrayal or even a flat out rejection. So many things happen that threaten the status quo of our relationships.
When our relationships end or when they are threatened, one of the common sources of hurt is linked to the fact that we feel that all of the good we invested in that relationship is wasted. This thought really hurts. I think it’s very important to get a God perspective in the midst of our hurt, otherwise we could make choices that continue the cycle of hurt.
Over the years I have had to learn how to navigate the difficulty of a valued church member moving on. Irrespective of what the reason was it’s always a tough reality to accept. People move on!
Earlier on in pastoring, it felt like every prayer, counsel, concern, encouragement was lost as they moved on. That hurt!
But in the last few years I’ve come to realise that the gift that God has given me in the relationships that I have is the gift of this present moment.
This moment I have is an opportunity to do my friend good ON BEHALF OF GOD! This is the moment God has given you with that your friend. His will is that through you His goodness, in one form or the other, will flow to this person!
You being good to your friend has always been more about the WILL of God than it has been about you, your friend or your relationship!
Regardless of how bad things are with your friend today;
- IT WAS ALWAYS RIGHT FOR YOU TO HAVE BEEN GOOD TO THEM. You should not regret the good you invested. That was the right thing to do!
- YOUR INVESTMENT OF GOOD IS NOT WASTED! Since the good thing you did was the will of God, done for His will, your investment of good is not wasted. God saw everything you did, even if your friend didn’t. God appreciates all you have done, even if your friend doesn’t.
And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is My disciple, truly I tell you, he will never lose his reward.”
The end of a relationship or even just the percieved end of a relationship can be traumatic. You are more vulnerable and this is when the enemy of our souls like to strike. This is when He wants to ruin your future relationships by ruining your heart. I hope the above helps dodge every attempt of the enemy to keep your heart in a bitter place. I am praying for you.