What are you learning from your Pain?

Pain instructs. I believe God allowed pain to instruct us. It wasn’t his first choice. He is not sadistic to choose pain as an instructor. His first choice was obedience. God’s best plan has always been that we learn by listening to Him and obeying His instructions. The fallen state of man however, makes it…

Consider Jesus…

We all owe it to ourselves to look carefully at this man Jesus. Who did He say He is? How does who He is and what He said affect my life today?

When you think Love is a feeling

The quality of any relationship is not determined by the intensity of the flutter in your stomach. It is determined by how much of the person you can stomach when the butterflies are NOT fluttering.

Beating Shame

Shame is defined as a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behaviour. From my experience (personally and pastorally) I have found that when shame matures, it goes beyond being a feeling of humiliation that passes, as most feelings do. It becomes a force that seeks to shape our…

The Blessing of ignorant friends

We often believe that people who have not been through what we have been through, have nothing of value to say to us. Afterall, they don’t understand! How can anyone help if they don’t understand? There is truth in that. A lot of truth actually. When you cannot comprehend another person’s pain, suffering or even…

Communicating right

Christmas is a time when many of us get to interact with family members, friends and colleagues a bit more than we do all year round. Here is some helpful information about communcation that can save you a lot of arguments in this season! James 1:19 Understand this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be…

The Key to healthy relationships 

There are so many battles we face in our relationships that can literally be shut down and won by one or two unkind words!  Yet if we are really after authentic relationships and authentic fulfilment, we will need to resist the temptation to say/type/write unkind words.  Speaking an unkind word in some circumstances can be…

Vulnerability

Last time I shared how courage is required to be able to do the will of God. Most of what God instructs us to do, will appear to be bigger and greater than our current ability or strength. 1 Corinthians 1:28 – 29 tells us that God chooses to operate this way so that when…