Christmas is a time when many of us get to interact with family members, friends and colleagues a bit more than we do all year round. Here is some helpful information about communcation that can save you a lot of arguments in this season!
James 1:19 Understand this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear a ready listener, slow to speak, slow to take offence and to get angry.
If you are honest with yourself you will find that our relationships get into trouble when we are Slow to hear; this is when they haven’t finished saying what they were saying but you have reached a conclusion in your mind. So your responses aren’t based on what they said, but based on the response you formulated before they finished speaking!
Our relationships get into trouble when we are quick to speak…you were angry so you called them fat! You know you didn’t mean it but the Words have left your mouth and you can’t take that back!
Our relationships also suffer when you get angry too quickly! We’re sometimes too prickly! Too irritable!
James is saying that we ought to be quick to hear, a ready listener, slow to speak, slow to take offence and to get angry. Just imagine the difference that will make in our relationships!
A lot of the time we don’t really listen to hear what they are saying, we listen enough to formulate our response!
A lot of the time we interrupt people because you’ve heard enough and you have also formulated your response.
Proverbs 18:13 He who answers a matter before he hears the facts—it is folly and shame to him.
How many times have we practiced foolishness based this principle?
Real communication is talking intensely & intimately.
Communication is transmitting thoughts and feeling to another. Communication requires time because communication is not complete until exactly that which is being transmitted has been received!
Communication is an exchange…what was sent must be sent back to the one who released it for communication to be complete.
It is only until we learn to be quick to hear, a ready listener, slow to speak, slow to take offence and to get angry that we will learn to communicate effectively.