I recently received an anonymous email from a teenager who was asking for guidance in dealing with their parents in a Godly way. Fortunately I have been a teenager before so here is an open letter to my precious anonymous friend.
Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1-3 NLT)
Thank you for your recent letter. Here are some things I have discovered about these special creatures called PARENTS…
There is something in your parents that releases success in you. It is God ordained! Your parents are containers of the blessing of God which can release you into God’s perfect plan for your life. This is why God instructs us to honour them i.e. to give WEIGHT to them, to their words, their instructions and their place in your life. To honour them is to treat them as valuable. They carry something that will cause things to go well for you, but we’ll never receive anything from someone we don’t honour! I know you don’t agree with them on most things, but do not cease to look for ways to honour them at all times! Dear teenager, the TRUTH is that your parents are equipped to help you succeed. Give weight to them!
Every person is unique, every child is unique. Dear teenager, please cut your parents some slack. They are trying to figure this thing out just like you are. Raising every child is a unique experience for the parent. They’ve never been at this place where you are becoming an adult responsible for your own decisions, whilst still being their child who needs their help and guidance. Just like you are going through a change which they need to understand, they are going through a change which you need to understand! They are learning just like you are.
I know you think they hate you, but the truth is that they love you so much that they would risk “hurting” you temporarily in order to ensure that things go well with you permanently. No parent enjoys seeing there children upset. Dad hates to see you upset, but he still can’t trust you to be on your own with that boy, not because he doesn’t believe you have strength of character, but because he knows that when it comes to your body, the wise thing to do is not to test your strength of character…clear strong boundaries are more effective.
Dear friend, i hope this helps. I have more to say to you, so I will write to you again soon. In the meantime, please know that you can ALWAYS trust God. Your parents might not always understand, but God always understands. If you stick to God’s instructions to you regarding your parents, you will ALWAYS come out from any difficult times with your parents…better off!
God bless you & keep you.